If you’ve seen the Netflix hit Marriage Story, you know custody battles can be messy. What’s more, they can also go unfavorably for fathers fighting for custody.
Child custody battles are pretty challenging for both partners involved. This is how you can improve your chances of winning custody.
If you want to win the custody battle, you need to be present. We don’t just mean showing up on court dates and being there at the meetings. You also need to be present in your child’s life!
This is especially important if you’ve previously been less involved in certain aspects of your child’s education or interests. For instance, if your ex-spouse was the one who typically attended all the PTA meetings and volunteered at their school events, it’s a good time for you to start being there too. Pick up your child from their school, take them out for ice cream, show up at their soccer practice, and drive them and their friends to the mall. The more time you spend with your child, the better it reflects in court.
Of course, this isn’t all just for appearances’ sake. The whole idea of fighting for custody is so that your child can live with you and you can spend time with them. While it may have been difficult to take out time from work and be more actively involved in your child’s life, you’re going to have to make a few sacrifices if you want to win custody. Being available for your child will show to the court that you have their best interests at heart and have a meaningful relationship with them.
Keep Track of All Records
You’ll also need to be hyper-vigilant when it comes to maintaining records. These include all sorts of important documents, deadlines, legal notices, and events in your child’s life that may be relevant to your case. Have a parenting plan ready to present at court if need be. This will improve the chances of you winning custody and getting to live with your child.
Don’t Turn Your Child against Their Parent
You and your (now former) partner may no longer have the same relationship as you used to, but they still have an important role to play in your child’s life. Many parents make the mistake of badmouthing their ex in front of their child—consciously or unconsciously. Doing this won’t help your case. In fact, it’ll only make your child more confused and hurt about the whole situation, and may even drive them away from you. Not to mention the bad example it sets in court.
Whatever you do, don’t use your child as a pawn in this custody battle. In fact, try to keep them out of the legal processes and procedures unless they absolutely need to be involved. You may win the battle by trash-talking your ex and turning your child against them, but you’ll also be contributing to unpleasant childhood memories.
When it comes to fighting for child custody, you need the assistance of a family law specialist. At the Law Offices of Ron Marquez in Chico, California, we have the best child custody & visitation lawyer to help you win your case.
Get in touch with us today for more information or give us a call at 530-332-8110.